THERE ARE MANY TYPES AND DEGREES OF ABUSE.

Here is a checklist to help you consider if you are being abused. All of the following are abuse:

 PHYSICAL ABUSE

  • pinch
  • burn
  • push/shove
  • choke
  • restrain
  • withhold medical treatment
  • pull
  • break bones
  • shake
  • cause internal injuries
  • slap
  • disable
  • bite
  • disfigure
  • pull hair
  • use guns
  • punch
  • use knives or other objects as weapons against you
  • kick

PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE

  • threaten
  • break things
  • speed in vehicle
  • destroy property
  • display weapons (guns, knives, belts)
  • threatening to kill you
  • control who you see/talk to
  • control what you do/where you go
  • act jealous
  • move residence frequently
  • threatening suicide
  • Minimize/Deny Blame
  • say one thing/expect another
  • deny abuse happened
  • make light of own actions
  • say that you’re crazy
  • not take concerns seriously
  • blame you for their abuse
  • tell lies

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

  • make all the decisions
  • force you to listen to them
  • play mind games
  • force you to do degrading things
  • deny your feelings/ideas
  • use guilt
  • withholding affection
  • use the silent treatment
  • continually wake you up
  • tease

VERBAL ABUSE

  • yell at you
  • insult you
  • call you names
  • use sarcasm
  • swear/profanity

INTELLECTUAL ABUSE

  • make you prove things to him
  • attack your ideas and opinions
  • play mind games
  • manipulate information
  • demand perfection
  • tell you you’re crazy
  • make you feel stupid

FINANCIAL ABUSE

  • call welfare
  • close bank accounts
  • limit access to money
  • waste money and create debt
  • make you account for every penny
  • not pay child support
  • control the money
  • take care of own needs only

PETS, PROPERTY ABUSE

  • kill or threaten pets
  • damage the vehicle
  • punch walls and doors
  • smash and break things
  • throw things

SPIRITUAL ABUSE

  • put down your faith
  • soul murder
  • cut you off from your church
  • use scripture against you
  • use church and faith to his advantage

CHILD ABUSE (Using the Children)

  • abuse children
  • belittle you in front of your children
  • threaten to harm or take children away
  • use visitation as leverage
  • refuse to make support payments

SOCIAL ABUSE

  • isolate you from your friends and family
  • dictate who you can see
  • prevent you from working
  • monitor phone calls or mileage

USING CULTURE

  • use his culture as an excuse for abuse
  • force you to adopt his cultural practices
  • put down your culture
  • allow his extended family to abuse or control you
  • refuse to allow you to learn Canadian culture

SEXUAL ABUSE

  • make you dress a certain way
  • not respect your feelings when you’re not interested in sex
  • not respect your feelings when you’re interested in sex
  • make you perform unwanted sexual acts
  • demand too much sex
  • use sexual harassment
  • force you to watch pornography/watch or have sex with others
  • physically attack breasts or genitals
  • have sex after a beating or argument
  • have violent sex
  • expose self inappropriately

If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions, you may benefit from the education, information and support.

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